"Your soulmate is not someone that comes into your life peacefully. It is who comes to make you question things, who changes your reality, somebody that marks a before and after in your life. It is not the human being everyone has idealized, but an ordinary person, who manages to revolutionize your world in a second…"
"Everyone deserves not just to survive, but to live."
"Enlightenment is a destructive process. It
has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the
crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing
through the facade of pretence. It’s the
complete eradication of everything we
imagined to be true."
"I design clothes because I don’t want women to look all innocent and naïve…I want woman to look stronger…I don’t like women to be taken advantage of…I don’t like men whistling at women in the street. I think they deserve more respect. I like men to keep their distance from women, I like men to be stunned by an entrance. I’ve seen a woman get nearly beaten to death by her husband. I know what misogyny is … I want people to be afraid of the women I dress."
"My third grade teacher called my mother and said, ‘Ms. Cox, your son is going to end up in New Orleans in a dress if we don’t get him into therapy.’ And wouldn’t you know, just last week I spoke at Tulane University, and I wore a LOVELY green and black dress."
"Nobody can eat according to hunger 100% of the time. Mostly, you should eat because you’re hungry. Sometimes, you eat because something is fantastic, even if you’re full. And always, you eat what your body wants. Always.
At first, eating intuitively was hard. I had to think about it a lot. But now? I don’t really think about it at all. I feel free.
I no longer have to measure out every tablespoon of food. I don’t have to track everything in a stupid weight loss app on my iPhone. I don’t have to count and weigh and measure and go to sleep hungry. The food that I eat isn’t classified into “healthy” or “not healthy” categories. I just eat and I’m happy.
My body image is better than it’s ever been and I love it."
"You turn the book over in your hands, you scan the sentences on the back of the jacket, generic phrases that don’t say a great deal. So much the better, there is no message that indiscreetly outshouts the message that the book itself must communicate directly, that you must extract from the book, however much or little it may be. Of course, this circling of the book, too, this reading around it before reading inside it, is a part of the pleasure in a new book, but like all preliminary pleasures, it has its optimal duration if you want it to serve as a thrust toward the more substantial pleasure of the consummation of the act, namely the reading of the book."
"I drank until you weren’t real."
"I am interested in language because it wounds or seduces me."
Dear employers, I will have to take the day off today because:
☐ It’s December and the streets are papier-mached with wet bronze leaves and it’s so dark outside that the cars have their headlights on at 3pm
☐ I have recently been through a breakup, or I have been through a breakup at any time in my life really, and I woke up today with the absolute conviction that I will never be loved again
☐ A dog looked at me
☐ I got a text from someone for whom I feel a mix of concern and frustration and recognition and longing that is both more and less than romance
☐ Someone made a joke about dead pets meeting you in heaven
☐ Daylight savings time
☐ I passed a knot of flowers that were so bright they glowed through the dim grey water of the day and when was anything in my life last that luminous?
☐ Girls are too pretty
☐ For the first time I genuinely comprehend that there is not enough time to have all the lives I wanted
☐ I accidentally listened to Leonard Cohen"
galaxies inside your head.
Stop letting people
you cannot shine."
"Our universities cannot go on like this. Girls enter university and find themselves in a world of sexual assault, objectification and harassment. We’re shown that even if you say no, he can still have sex with you. That it’s your fault if you were too drunk, and that your clothes ask for attention. We’re being told to shut up and cover up."
In the women’s bathroom of my building, someone wrote:
"1 in 3 women at this university is sexually assaulted.
I am one.”
And someone else added “me, too.”
This is relatively new graffiti. It appeared in the last few months or maybe half a year. Over time, I have seen a “me three” appear and then a “me four.” As of this past Friday, eight women have anonymously disclosed their sexual assaults on that wall.
I think this is a lot of what happens - solitary, under florescent lights, young women scratch their pain onto steel walls, hoping to excise it from their skins, relieved and sickened they’re not completely alone.
At freshman orientation we had a woman from the police force come to talk to us about sexual assault. It was a lot of “don’t leave your drink unattended” and “don’t go into a strangers room by yourself”, but the one thing I will never forget is her telling us not to report a rape/sexual assault to a female police officer because she is more likely to judge you. She will judge you. That was the moment I realized that as a woman I am not safe in this society and it will stay with me forever.
I don’t know if some of you have been to these live reads at LACMA, where a classic film is read live on stage by actors who just sit and read the script. We did one recently of American Pie, but we reversed the gender roles. All the women played men; all the men played women. And it was so fascinating to be a part of this because, as the women took on these central roles — they had all the good lines, they had all the good laughs, all the great moments — the men who joined us to sit on stage started squirming rather uncomfortably and got really bored because they weren’t used to being the supporting cast.
It was fascinating to feel their discomfort [and] to discuss it with them afterward, when they said, “It’s boring to play the girl role!” And I said, “Yeah. Yeah. You think? Welcome to our world!"